There have been occasions I have prayed for help. I’ve wanted nothing more than for someone to tell me everything will be fine and for that person to hold my hand while helping me make all the right decisions. Even Bill Withers said “we all need somebody to lean on.”
Help has revealed itself to me on several occasions as a deafening silence to stand up and help myself. You want to know where strength comes from? It comes from despair. Strength comes from calling out and receiving no answer. Strength comes from paralyzing fear and hurt feelings. Strength comes from having no choice but to get up and walk out in the light of day. The process does not feel good, but the outcome is absolutely liberating.
Sometimes help arrives, but not in the form desire. Help sometimes comes with the truth. In order to receive help, the truth needs to be acknowledged and dealt with. I know people who have opted to remain stuck than to have to face the truth and handle the accompanying discomfort. Acknowledging and facing the truth is brief because once the initial discomfort of the ugly truth is received, you have to do something about it. There is no time to wallow in self-pity. However, to consciously decide to not face the truth and unease of change is to be sentenced to a much longer suffering.
Help comes; it always does, but then change is close behind. Some of us do not like change.
Some people prefer the unpleasant state of stagnation to the temporary discomfort of growth. There is no right or wrong; there is simply choice. Everyone has the choice: be something or do something different to change a situation, or expend great amounts of energy resisting change to remain the same. There was a point in my life when I decided I would welcome discomfort, whenever it presented itself, as an opportunity for growth. I am often challenged to be kind, loving, forgiving and gracious when I do not want to be. There are times I step up to the challenge, and there are times I fail. I keep trying, and I keep growing.
Some people prefer the unpleasant state of stagnation to the temporary discomfort of growth. There is no right or wrong; there is simply choice. Everyone has the choice: be something or do something different to change a situation, or expend great amounts of energy resisting change to remain the same. There was a point in my life when I decided I would welcome discomfort, whenever it presented itself, as an opportunity for growth. I am often challenged to be kind, loving, forgiving and gracious when I do not want to be. There are times I step up to the challenge, and there are times I fail. I keep trying, and I keep growing.
The scariest outcome of receiving help is the ultimate price to pay which is being transformed. There are tall tales about people selling their souls, but when examined from a metaphysical point of view, it is true. A desire to be helped out of a situation requires the kind of change that is permanent. No one can remain the same person once his/her life is profoundly affected. There is a shift in soul perspective that has to take place to ascend and evolve. I can ask for $100 which might help me pay a bill; that is not profound change. To create the mindset and habits of a wealthy person, there are certainly spending habits and ideas about money that I will have to eliminate from my life forever in order to experience that kind of transformation. Whatever the desire is, the willingness to change has to be passionate.
The only thing constant in the universe is change...so let go.
